First of all, long time no blog. I have no excuse other than that life took over for a minute but I’ve got some breathing space now.
Back to the matter at hand.
A couple of weeks back, a friend sent this [btn text=”link ” tcolor=#0000FF bcolor=#F2F2F2 link=”http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/02/16/nigerian-pastor-in-the-uk-warns-married-couples-missionary-is-the-only-holy-sexual-act/” target=”_blank”] to me and from the title alone, I knew I was about to be pissed off (excuse my language, Saints!).
Of course, I watched the video immediately and my worst fears were confirmed. A popular Nigerian blog came across this video courtesy one of its readers who I presume was probably as baffled as I am. The pastor in the video claims to have had a revelation of hell and saw that married Christian couples who employ other positions apart from the missionary position during intercourse have a special place in hell. Yup, he said that! Click the link above to watch it if you please.
As he was narrating his dream, I’ll keep it real with you, I had to stop myself from actually swallowing every word he was saying. Even though I have no way of confirming what he is saying especially as he says he is a pastor, I’m always slow to rebuke such people because I don’t want to figuratively “touch the Lord’s anointed and do His prophet any harm”. But deep inside, as much as I didn’t want to shout out that I thought it was utter horse poo, I also considered for a moment how my life will change if what he was saying was true. I mean, I have some serious plans for my future husband and now you want to tell me that even when there are no longer any restrictions post-marriage, there are other restrictions?! I really wasn’t having that, to be honest.
Let’s not even go into the scriptures he quoted which I still struggle with till this day, to understand how they actually back up his revelation…
But I remember my conversation with my friend who sent me the link and my first reaction was, “THIS IS NOT WHAT JESUS DIED FOR!” and this is sure as hell not in my Bible ’cause in all my research into God’s take on sexual relations inside and outside the confines of marriage, I have never come across any mentions of God caring an inch about what position you decide to submit yourself to your husband or wife. Besides if it was in the Bible and I happened to miss it, we would have heard it in every church by now.
Now after I decided to get over how livid I was about the pastor’s claim, I really started to think about and converse with the Holy Spirit whether there was any possibility that there was some truth to what he was saying. 1 John chapter 4 verse 1 (AMP) admonishes us: “Beloved, do not put faith in every spirit, but prove (test) the spirits to discover whether they proceed from God; for many false prophets have gone forth into the world.” and I really had to test this one ’cause he got me really feeling some type of way!
These are my final sentiments:
- When it comes to sex, God wants it to be within the confines of marriage. This is more about purity than Him giving a set of rules to be followed blindly. Now, when you do get married and as long as you don’t commit adultery or zoophilia or any other thing which is just plain wrong and you know to be wrong, God says, “But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband.
For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband [has his rights]; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights]. Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.” (1 Corinthians chapter 7 verse 4). Decide for yourself what you think makes sense.
- I believe that Heaven is already guaranteed for all believers who stick with God no matter how many times they fumble. Jesus died and resurrected in order to pay the price that redeems us from being controlled by any force that causes us to so easily walk on that wide path towards hell. While no sin is better than another, I don’t think that the positions you decide to use in expressing your inner desires to your husband or wife is a sin. If more Christians read and digested the underlying tones of Song of Solomon in the Bible, you’ll know that it’s meant to be fun for both parties involved and; whatever constitutes fun in this context is personal to a married couple and how they want to run their own show behind closed doors. And please, I’m of the sentiment that this is the least of God’s problems especially when there are many more hearts and souls that are yearning to be saved. Just my humble opinion.
- The pastor claims that this revelation is for married Christian couples. So does that mean the non-Christians get a free pass? This is the kind of thing that gets negative publicity for Christianity: some of us are trying to spread the good news of salvation through Christ while others are still trying to make people (believers and non-believers alike) think that they can only be accepted by God if they modify their behaviour; as if anything we do in our limited ability is going to ever be good enough to earn salvation for ourselves. Again, Jesus already paid that price!
There are a lot more deep-seated issues that people are facing and need guidance on like depression, addiction, low self-esteem, unforgiveness etc. I suggest we direct our attention to these sort of issues that actually affect the quality of human life and the ability to fulfill one’s purpose.
’cause it’s The Steph Way