TheStephWay IS Two Years Old Today: The Journey So Far + GIVEAWAY!

Whoop whoop! The Steph Way is exactly TWO years old today!!

It feels like it was JUST yesterday when I decided to buy a domain name, pay for a WordPress managed account and announce on Instagram that I was entering the world of blogging.

I have a God-given task to share my personal revelations of life and living in our world through God’s eyes as I grow in Him and know Him more, as well as to hopefully inspire and encourage others on their own journey of merging the Word with daily living and get more acquainted with God’s prescriptions for living a full life. While it has mostly been rewarding in terms of strengthening my own relationship with God, there were also  moments when I  questioned whether I was making any difference at all and if it would be better to just cut my losses  – I must say I’m so glad I didn’t give up.


Pssssh! I ain’t no quitter:

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So in the spirit of “I’m still HERE”, I thought I’d share some reflections I’ve learnt along the way and hopefully inspire you to keep at whatever it is you believe is part of your purpose on earth, because


So here goes.

Embrace your own niche: The blogosphere is filled with different people offering different content targeted at varied audiences. So you would be kicking yourself if you measure your output against theirs given that the inputs are likely totally different. Let your concern be how to provide the right content for your audience and keep providing them with YOUR best. Your voice and content attracts its own niche, believe it or not, and someone is interested in what you have to say.


Go at your own pace: Greatness takes time. It would be really nice if this website was already known world-wide, raking in a million viewers per minute but I’ve learnt to appreciate the “not yet” moments. Sometimes, I put myself down and wonder if I was doing enough but the reality is that I don’t even think I’m ready for that level of attention and traffic just yet. If I’m honest, I think I like the idea of it more than the reality of it.

But deciding everyday to take this journey at my own pace has honestly kept me sane. After all, it’s not REALLY about who gets there first but rather about: impact, relevance and longevity. The “top” is an illusion and when you think you’ve experienced it you’ll soon find that there’s always further to go, anyway.


Don’t place any hope in “scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours”: I used to think that if I supported other bloggers, they would also support me too. Oh! I quickly learned that I was setting myself up for emotional trauma by adopting this mindset. Support is a great thing to give and receive but once motives are attached, it becomes a stressful endeavor. I used to think that if I shared the content of other bloggers, commented on their blogs, followed them on social media etc. that they would mirror me. But, alas, ’twas not so!

I resolved that I would share or comment on a blog post or article or whatever ONLY if I truly believed its message or a post resonated with me and NOT because I expected support in return. If it doesn’t do anything for me, I just keep it movin’. Unless of course, you’re my friend then I’d gladly help you out for friendship’s sake.

Also, don’t be too dependent on support from particular readers. Remember that your content is relevant at all times but may not be relevant for particular readers in their various seasons.


You gotta be your biggest “pep-talker”: At the end of the day, your blog/website is largely borne by YOUR OWN vision and no one is going to see/understand it all the time let alone be anywhere near as passionate about it as you are. But if you really believe in what you’re putting out, you have to learn to give yourself as many pep talks as often as you need to if it’s going to keep you on your toes. It’s your responsibility to help others see your vision but when it seems harder than usual, whip out the pep-talker in you. Now repeat after me, “I is smart, I is kind, I is important“. Aaaand repeat again.

And if that doesn’t work, then breaks are actually allowed. Your audience won’t abandon you because you needed a couple of weeks to recuperate and rec


Make sure you are learning from your blog too!: I used to cringe at the thought of reading my own blog when I first started writing. But in the last year, I actually started reading my posts – even dug back to the older ones – and I was surprised that 1) Wait, I wrote that?! It’s actually really good! and 2) Wow! I was actually learning/being reminded of a lot from posts that I barely even remember writing. Put some ‘respeck’ on the archives!

I think as long as you master the balance between penning what you already know and what you’re learning and therefore sharing with others, you’re definitely going to learn from your blog.

So yah! That’s mi journey so far really.



Now, it wouldn’t be a real birthday party without a gift for at least one attendee so it’s GIVEAWAY time (yaay!)

As you guys have been good readers and supported me over the last couple of years with your comments, shares, likes etc. I thought it’d be a good idea to encourage you to pursue your own vision be it a business or blog. What better way to get your face out there than establishing your own corner of the World Wide Web?!

Prize: So I’m giving ONE lucky reader the chance to finally step out and set up their own website with a 1 year* subscription for a domain name of your choice AND 1 year* subscription of Managed WordPress so you can start building your site easily – I will also help you get started and show you how to use Managed WordPress and share all my humble knowledge with you.

How to enter:

  1. You have to be subscribed to the blog – you can do so [btn text=”here” tcolor=#0000FF bcolor=#FFF thovercolor=#FFF link=”” target=”_blank”]
  2. In the comment box below, you simply need to state i) why you read and; ii) what vision/idea having your own website bring to life for you, your inspiration AND why you don’t already have a website.

I’ll pick the best answer.

Good luck family!

Love ya,





*I will pay for the 1st year but after the 1 year subscription runs out, renewal costs will be borne by you. 




  1. Ngz June 14, 2016 at 7:18 pm

    Happy 2nd birthday !!!!

    1. thestephway June 15, 2016 at 9:13 am

      Thanks love!

  2. Amarachukwu June 15, 2016 at 2:46 am

    Congratulations & more power to your elbow Steph!

    1. thestephway June 15, 2016 at 9:14 am

      Thanks hun and thank you for being one of my newest readers! Please feel free to reach out or make suggestions of what you’d like to see more of.

  3. sogie June 15, 2016 at 5:54 am

    First time stopping here, saw the link on twitter and I’m glad I clicked. Firstly Congrats 2 years ain’t easy. Your tips all hit home, the first time we all start blogging I think we have the scratch my back scratch yours mentality but we learn so fast. Your blog is like your baby and you have to be your biggest fan. Once in a while I feel it’d necessary to go through the archives and reassess, if there’s a post you no longer agree with delete cos change is constant.
    Well buy your self a lil present could be ice cream sef but little achievements like this ought to be celebrated.

  4. Lulu June 15, 2016 at 8:57 pm

    Congratulations thestephway! We did it gurrl! !! Hehehehe

  5. KacheeTee June 16, 2016 at 9:09 am

    Great tips Steph! Really well put. And that’s such a huge give away – God bless you and I hope it’s really useful for someone.
    I actually really learn from my blog, and sometimes my husband teases me like – “Eh Eh Blogger you said people should do this, but you’rre not taking your own advise”.
    ps: We need to meet up soon!


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